What is orgasm?
According to Wikipedia an orgasm (sexual climax) is the conclusion of the plateau phase of
the sexual response cycle, and may be experienced by both males and females. Orgasm is
characterized by intense physical pleasure, controlled by the involuntary, or autonomic,
nervous system. It is accompanied by quick cycles of muscle contraction in the lower pelvic
muscles, which surround the primary sexual organs and the anus. Orgasms are often
associated with other involuntary actions, including muscular spasms in other areas of the
body, a general euphoric sensation, and frequently, vocalization. Read more about sexuality.
Orgasm is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension resulting in rhythmic
muscular contractions in the pelvic region that produce intensely pleasurable sensations
followed by rapid relaxation. Orgasm is also a part a psychological experience of pleasure
and abandon, when the mind is focused solely on the personal experience. It is sometimes
called climaxing or coming.
Very often women are asking about orgasm because many women never had orgasm -
When orgasm is happening? How achieve the orgasm? Is every woman experiencing
orgasm every time? How do you feel during orgasm? Should I be prepared for orgasm? Do
all women feel same kind of orgasm? Why women need more time to achieve orgasm?
Orgasms vary from person to person and for each individual at different times. Sometimes
orgasm is an explosive, amazing rush of sensations, while others are milder, subtler, and
less intense. The differences in intensity of orgasms can be attributed to physical factors,
such as fatigue and length of time since last orgasm, as well as to a wide range of
psychosocial factors, including mood, relation to partner, activity, expectations, and feelings
about the experience.
All women are different but all women need the following for being able to reach the orgasm:
- romance and romantic atmosphere,
- trust,
- pleasant and comfortable surrounding,
- the partner whom she likes,
- confidence in being wanted,
- feeling of full appreciation,
- good flow of natural lubrication,
- skilled partner who knows how to stimulate the clitoris.
Sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse
alone is not very good at stimulating the woman's clitoris. Nearly all females need additional
stimulation of the clitoris.
What women fill during orgasm?
After sexual excitement women’s heart beats faster while breathing quickens. Often, they will
tighten various muscles all over the body. Breasts usually enlarge somewhat, the nipples
tend to stand out while the areolas become noticeably enlarged. Some women flush red on
their face, neck and chest. The visible part of the clitoris also swells slightly.
Secretions occur inside and at the opening of the vagina. Labia flatten and open. The vagina
lengthens and widens internally. These vaginal changes are mainly a result of a rush of
blood to the pelvic area (called engorgement). Usually it provides pleasurable warmth in a
female's genital area.
The orgasm itself begins with strong muscle contractions. These contractions can be
finished within four seconds or last up to about 15 seconds. They tend to occur at intervals of
0.8 seconds. Also, the inner two-thirds of the vagina usually open up even more, while the
uterus contracts. During orgasm, skin flushing generally reaches its maximum. Muscles may
keep contracting, while blood pressure, heart rate and respiratory rate continue to rise. Some
women make sounds reflecting the pleasure they are experiencing.
Sometimes women who have never experienced orgasm, and women who are not sure if
they had it, often ask: "What you feel during orgasm?" It is very difficult to explain because as
it is very subjective feeling – feeling of pleasure. Everything depends on personal feeling and
reactions. Subjective reports frequently mention a sensation of tingling in the spine, brain,
and genital areas. While some women relay an experience being on the verge of passing
out, others report a level of enjoyment only somewhat less than that of "the earth moving". If a
woman has experienced some form of nerve damage, she may not be able to tell if she has
had an orgasm.
The main key and sensual receptor of the orgasm is clitoris. Without engaging the clitoris
directly or indirectly, there can be no prospect of orgasm.
There are several physiological components of orgasm. First, orgasm is a total body
response, not just a pelvic event. Brain wave patterns have shown distinct changes during
orgasm, and muscles in many different areas of the body contract during this phase of
sexual response. Some people experience the involuntary contraction of facial muscles
resulting in what looks like a grimace or an expression of discomfort or displeasure, but it is
actually an indication of high sexual arousal.
Despite the anatomical differences between male and female genitals, orgasms in men and
women are physiologically and psychologically, or subjectively, very similar.
What men should know about female orgasm?
(extracts from Dr David Delvin and Christine Webber)
Men should know what to do if they want their partners reach the orgasm
regularly:
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Don’t be in a rush. |
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Don’t be too demanding - it's not an Olympic event. |
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Talk to your partner, and ask her what she wants you to do to her. |
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Always create a romantic atmosphere. |
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Make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her.
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Give her lots of kisses and cuddles before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area.
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When you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, don't rush into 'attacking' her clitoris. Take things gently, and see what she wants. |
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Use her own natural lubrication to moisten her clitoris. |
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Remember that stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm. |
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Sometimes encourage her to 'run' your sex sessions. You can learn a lot by watching how she stimulates herself or by really listening to her when she suggests a sex position, or a particular caress. |
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