About virginity?

According to Wikipedia - A virgin (or maiden) is, originally, a young woman characterized by
absence of sexual experience. Virginity is the state of being a virgin (never had sexual
intercourse).

In Roman times, the Vestal Virgins remained celibate for 30 years on penalty of death (see above).

Losing our virginity… It happens to almost all of us, no matter who we are or where we come
from. How it will happen with you? Ever wondered what other people think and feel about this never-to-be-repeated experience? And how much more do we learn as we grow up?
There are millions of stories how people loose their virginity and hymen – women and men,
old and young, gay, straight, Christian, Muslim and Catholic, from the funny and the sad, to
the happy and occasionally, the unbelievable.

In some countries and some societies girls should be virgin before marriage and in some
countries the sexual relations are pretty free. So there are no roles and no norms for virginity. It is too personal.

There could be a lot of pressure to lose your virginity (to have sexual intercourse for the first
time). Don’t have sex with someone just because you want to lose your virginity, or because
you think all your friends are doing the same. It is something you most probably will regret
later.

It is not easy to plan first sexual contact and loose virginity. It is always very stressful. You
might feel lots of anxieties. What to expect? How it will go? Is it painful? You may feel
embarrassed about how you look without your clothes on, or worried about your privacy
being disturbed. It's natural to feel some worries about first time sex but good
communication will really help to prevent you feeling embarrassed or worried. You should be
able to talk to your partner about how you feel about having sexual contact for the first time,
and about any concerns you may have. Your partner might be worried, too. May be it is also
first time for him? Being relaxed and able to share things with your partner will really ease
the tension. And if you're too shy, or you're not able to talk about these things with your
partner - then you probably shouldn't be having sex!

Stories and Opinion

“I was 13 just for 16 day's, it was my older sisters' 21st. b-day party, she was not a very good
influence on me my mom used to say, she let me drink, I got drunk for my first time and had
intime contact for my first time, he was twice my age. It was not a good experience. I wish my
first time was something I could remember”.

“We started and then he couldn't find protection so he had to drive all the way into town to buy
a condom and he got one out of the gas station bathroom HA HA HA!! So, we both had to wait
20 minutes and try again. A lot of tension and worries!!! The next day we went and bought
more condoms together”.

“I was in a long-term relationship but didn't intend to go all the way yet. I was very naive - 16
yrs old - and we'd had "sex play" a few times. I understand now that my boyfriend couldn't’t
take the pressure anymore! Once during an almost-sex make-out marathon, he lost control
and took it all the way. I was mad at first in my lack of understanding, but he felt terrible and
ended up teaching me a lot!”

“Although I didn't expect it to be a bed of roses like Hollywood depicts it, I pictured it as a
cross between a tender, romantic act and something more animalistic and aggressive”

”19...I actually expected to lose it sooner, and although the opportunities did present
themselves, I ultimately decided to wait for the "right" guy, and I’m glad that I did”

”It was far, far more painful than I was anticipating...I had expected it to be painful. He was
fully aware that it was my first time...in fact. I think the subject of virginity was brought up on
fairly early on in our relationship. We have been pretty open when it comes to discussing all
things sexual and I felt really comfortable with him. Also, I had a pretty good idea that it was
gonna happen when it did”.

What would/did you tell your daughter about losing her virginity?

”I would answer all of her questions, and tell her to talk to friends and read up on it. And that
it's not something that should just be "given" away to the first person that shows an interest.
While I don't necessarily associate romantic love with sex, it should feel "right"...and if for
whatever reason it doesn't feel 100% right just it should not be done”.

French Judge Annuls Wedding Over Virgin Fib

Posted May 31, 08 9:31 AM CDT in World
(Newser) – A judge's decision to annul a Muslim wedding because the bride was not a virgin
has caused outrage in France, the London Times reports. The groom emerged from the
bedroom to complain about his bride while the wedding party was still going on and went to
the judge the next day. The bride, shunned by both families, later admitted to a sexual
indiscretion, and did not oppose the annulment.
Women's rights activists expressed shame that the French justice system had been used to
diminish the status of women. “The sexuality of women in France is a private and free
matter,” said one. “The annulment will just serve to send young Muslim girls running to
hospitals to have their hymens restored.” Indeed, operations to restore the hymen are
becoming popular among the country's Muslim women, the Times reports.